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Hellish Weekend

 This was a weekend from hell. Saturday was filled with pain from my tooth, but also because a dear friend of more than 25 years basically told me to jump off a bridge and that she wanted nothing more to do with me. I was absolutely shocked and still am.



I would love to give in to anger and rant, rave, and bitch, but that would only be giving in to more of the pain that exists in the world and I refuse to do that. Instead, I'll honor her request, take her out of my life, and try not to hold her irrational behavior against her. Much easier said than done, though, and it caused me a lot of stress. Stress that came out in...

Funeral of a Friend

It's a funeral for a friendship, so I am placing a
lovely memorial stone on it. R I P

Pain. Pain from my tooth - I'm suddenly starting to be really happy that I can get this taken care of on Wednesday. I don't think I got more than two hours of sleep in a row for the entire night, waking up in so much pain I was rocking with it and tears were falling. Mid-night, I finally gave up and took more pain pills. Then I was finally able to sleep until a little after 8 am, even though I did wake up several more times. Last night I only took two pain pills and managed to sleep relatively well, waking at midnight, but then going back to sleep until my alarm awakened me. I'm still upset about my friend, but a day off has allowed the worst of the pain to begin healing. And playing LOTRO for much of the day yesterday, hooking up with one of my fic-friends in-game was wonderful and very helpful. Now I need to rewrite the story I wanted to post on Wednesday. I'm VERY not happy with it. I'm going to scrap more than 90% of it and rewrite, it will be much better as a result. It's the beginning of a new week, let's all hope for a good one.
  • Current Location: Huddled in my Blankie
  • Current Mood: confused confused
  • Current Music: Jeremiah Clarke - The Prince of Denmark's March
Thanks, Olorime. I know I'll get over the tooth, I'm actually almost looking forward to Wednesday (almost - not quite). I'll take my pills and I'm grateful for them. As for my ex-friend...that's a potential problem, but hopefully nothing I can't work thru. Thanks for the kind wishes!!!

- Erulisse (one L)
Oh lord, how awful! I'm so sorry -- a painful weekend metaphorically and literally, that really is dreadful. I don't think you should think of taking pain pills as 'giving in' to the pain -- there is no reason to suffer like that when you can drug it to sleep until Wednesday. But as for your friend, that's a harder matter. *hugs and good wishes*
Clodia -
I just can't measure how much my LJ friends have meant to me during this past few days of ups and downs. I have my dental appt on Wednesday morning, and my DH is working my shift for me on Thursday so that I actually can have an extra day to recuperate. Sometimes he can come through in a crunch - LOL. As for my friend...well, she's not anymore, that's for sure. And that does hurt.

- Erulisse (one L)
Wretched darned LJ! I wrote a funny little anecdote that I wanted to pass on -- relevant to putting up with the discomfort at the dentist's so that you have relief later, but...well, wretched darned LJ!

I am so, so sorry to hear about the falling out with your friend, Erulissë. Truly, it does not sound rational on her part. Have a hug and a big heaping helping of empathy and affection.
Pande - Just the thought that you would think of posting something to me when you have been dealing with your own cold - you are SO sweet!!! Reading Kilts parts 3A and 3B did help, although I didn't feel well enough to crit 3B yet.

My friend has been a regular part of my life for a long time and I will feel a hole in my weeks for a while without her. But I can get through all of this, and I will be stronger after it.

You take care of yourself!!! You need to baby yourself a bit also.

- Erulisse (one L)
Oh, now I can get on -- I have not been able to get on LJ since about 8. am this morning.
I am so sorry, Erulisse, about both things, and I know how awful toothache can be, the crying with pain. Hugs you tightly.

Also your friend; that does sound very strange. She owes you an apology :(
LJ was perfectly miserable today. I did get your Emails, you sweetie, you. Someday I hope we have a chance to actually meet, we have so much in common.

My friend does owe me an apology, and a lot more than that, but I doubt I'll see anything at all. She's quite a bit older than I am and I suspect she'll end up a lonely old woman in the end. A shame.

Thanks for trying to make me feel better :-)

- Erulisse (one L)
How sad for you that someone you have seen for so long as your friend would behave like that.

As for the toothache - take everything you can! Something I know is also done by other nurses of my generation for severe toothache is to take standard pain killers every four hours, and ibuprofen every four hours on the half-way points.

Our reasoning? For twenty years or so ibuprofen was prescribed only as an anti-inflammatory and so we dished it out with the painkillers - therefore we have no worries about it being over-kill! Also its anti-inflammatory effect is really useful if you have something like an abscess on the tooth.
CW - Thank you so much for your comments and advice. I have been taking Aleve during the day, and a codeine pain killer at night, and it works, usually. I am usually fairly drug resistant, and I always enjoyed the downers, so I react well to them. But I still wake up in pain during the night, probably because of stress building up in my jaw which transfers to my tooth. It sucks. I really need Wednesday to get here already so that I can get this taken care of and continue on my next detour of life :-)

- Erulisse (one L)
What a perfectly awful storm of stress and sadness and hurt. **holds you tight**

I hope the new week is better for you and everyone who matters to you.

**hugs**
Minuial - Thank you SO much for the hug. I really needed it and my LJ friends are ABSOLUTELY the BEST!

- Erulisse (one L)
It so TOTALLY was, Shire. So totally. Thanks for the hug. I'll accept a wag of the tail from Pippin too :-)

- Erulisse (one L)
I'm so sorry that your weekend ended up being such a trial. And I'm sorry about what happened with your friend. Had that happen to me a little over a year ago, and I'm still grieving the loss and a little angry over the cruel way the friendship was ended. The memorial stone was a good idea. Wish I'd been as creative as you are. Instead, I blogged about it in here. :-p Yeach!!

Hopefully, once that tooth is taken care of, things will begin to look up for you. And there is no lost honor in taking painkillers for a killer toothache!! My son had a bad tooth that would flare every once in a while, leaving him literally screaming. I had one tooth go so bad that by the time I made it to the dentist, I was almost passing out from the pain.

Take whatever pain mediation the Universe has seen fit to put in your path with a clear conscience, okey? If you weren't meant to take painkillers, you wouldn't have been born in an era when they were so easily available. And I hope you can take it easy both before and after the oral surgeon, and sleep as much as you need to without guilt.

Sending good thoughts and vibes in your direction.
Aearwen - you are another friend on this list that I hope I have a chance to meet someday. We have tons in common :-)

I will take whatever medications I have available to me. Usually I'm fairly OK, but when I'm stressed, the stress builds up in my muscles and my jaw is, of course, also affected, which then affects the tooth. It's a nasty roller coaster ride of no pain followed by killer pain, and then back to none. If it was my emotions doing this ride, they'd probably lock me up - LOL.

Thanks for the good thoughts and the kind words and advice. They really mean a lot to me.

- Erulisse (one L)
*huggles* I'm so sorry about your crappy weekend... tooth pain is just, ack... I think, it's so much worse than anything else because it takes less time for the pain to go from the tooth to the brain than say, a broken toe. As someone who has had too many tooth issues, I can totally say I feel your pain (though my coping mechanism usually includes a lot of swearing and slamming of cabinet doors...) Looking forward to more in-game fun this weekend -- which I hope will be a pain-free weekend for you!
Hey Zhie, one of the few highlights of my weekend was getting to play in Middle Earth with you for a while. That was fun.

I usually don't swear or slam doors - I have to be extremely angry to do that. I have a temper that can burn very hot, but it's over very quickly.

I hope to run into you again this Sunday. I want to crank my Minstrel from level 12 to 20 so that I can get her a spring fest horse also. That means DH will bring in Gwumpie and he'll pull me through levels with him. I'll have to go back and do a lot of leftover quests on my own afterwards, but I'll get my horse. Crazy, but my Noldo really needs one of those blue roan horses :-) If you have someone you want to get up fast, this would be an excellent time.

- Erulisse (one L)
Sounds like a plan -- you'll get to meet Bainith, my RK. He's at 12 or 13 at the moment, so this looks like an ideal time to finally get him going in levels (he's my secondary for RPing, but has spent way too much time chatting at the Prancing Pony to actually get quests done)!
LOTRO
Sounds good. Our plans are always loose, so I don't know when I'll actually be on. But you're very welcome to join us and we'll see how far we can go before I lose interest, strength, or initiative - LOL.

- Erulisse (one L)
I'm so sorry about your toothache and your friend. Could she be mentally ill?It is a horrible thing to do to anyone.
No, she's under a great deal of stress right now, but I make a really bad punching bag. I could probably forgive her if she came back to me with an apology, but my DH wouldn't allow me to do so - he's furious with her for doing this to me. Guess I'm a little too easy-going :-) Thanks for your kind thoughts, they really do help.

- Erulisse (one L)