Tolkien, artist

Telephones and Emails

 I hate telephones. Im my working life I have spent WAY too much time on telephones, and I have learned over the years how very easy it is to misunderstand someone while just talking with them over electronic equipment. I find that I prefer the use of Email; at least then things are in writing and any misunderstandings can be pinned down and explained with greater ease. But, in spite of the fact that I dislike telephones, I still have to operate with them. And one of the things that I will have to do is telephone this Israeli lawyer who is handling a case for my cousins and me, a case that I didn't even know about six months ago.


Telephones make a great toy, but I don't like them very much.

My adoptive parents were refugees from WWII in Europe, my father from Prague, Czechoslovakia, my mother from Vienna, Austria. Most of my other relatives of their generation didn't survive the war. My father had three siblings - two full siblings, a brother and a sister, and one half-brother. His older brother, Willy, did not survive the war and, as I recall the few times my father mentioned him, he had been shot by the Germans at some point. Apparently he owned some property that is now pending sale, but all heirs had to be notified about this and I am an heir. Surprise. Not a whole lot of good came out of WWII for my family - although several people survived, more people died in a variety of nasty methods and some infamous locations. (Perhaps this is one more reason why I am Pagan...or maybe not.) This may finally be a good thing, but in order to make sure that I have actually been added to the action, I will need to telephone the lawyer. I Emailed a week or so ago, but haven't heard a confirmation back, so I have to grit my teeth and phone a lawyer at a VERY early hour of my morning to catch the time difference, just to make sure that I have been added to this action. I'll do it because I have to, but I'm not going to like it. And I may still push it back into next week and just try one more Email first. Have I mentioned that I hate telephones?
I have done a lot of phone work too, and I always think I can explain myself better through writing than the telephone, or face-to-face.
I must admit that face-to-face is probably the very best way to communicate because then you get all of the body language that you miss in other forms of communication. But writing is vastly better than vocal only. Just think of all that your characters absorb by reading the body language and the eyes of the people with whom they are interacting? A lot would be missed if it was just written or just verbal without those additional clues to perspective and emotions.

- Erulisse (one L)
Just think of all that your characters absorb by reading the body language and the eyes of the people with whom they are interacting?

Oh, I agree that is better. I pick up a great deal, but for me, I am shy and tend to go very quiet face-to-face, so I cannot get across what I want to say, and the only impression I probably make is 'She's just shy and boring.'
Ahhhh, but I know better. Shyness is difficult to overcome. The only way I did it back when was by thinking that I was acting out a role. After a while it became easier. I always felt, and sometimes still do, that my opinions were really not wanted or welcome, and that I should really stay in the background. It's far safer there. But people would always seek me out and tell me things about themselves, so even when I wanted to be in the background, I wasn't allowed to be. I'm sure there is a reason for that, so I just go along with it as it is presented to me and I seem to make out OK. It's not easy though, and self-doubt is a big part of my makeup even though I push it back into its' cage as often as I can.

- Erulisse (one L)