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Anniversary Thoughts

Tomorrow is our weekly date for Renaissance Festival and it will be their weekend of Chocolate and Romance. It also will be my 33rd wedding anniversary. Yes, 33 years ago (tomorrow), forty pounds lighter and one thousand miles away, I said "I do" and joined my life with the man I considered my best friend. He was one of two men who actually interested me for longer than six months. He kept me guessing, entertained, could carry on conversation on a variety of topics, shared similar interests, and in general seemed like a good bet. Although I have my issues with him on and off, there is a great deal of basic love and respect and I would make the same decision again. At least on most good days - LOL.

My husband came from a deeply Irish Catholic family. His older sister married in the church. His brother's wedding was not Catholic, but it was at least Christian. I wanted a civil ceremony with our own vows and something that had no religious overtones at all. I was always grateful that his brother broke the ice there, at least he was the first to not have a priest.

We didn't go fancy, we were poor college students. My ring was a plain band with a small
engagement ring that was similar to this one. I still felt like a queen wearing that diamond.

His mother didn't travel. Getting her to take a day-long car trip was a bit of a miracle. Here we were asking her to fly to Denver for the wedding. Until we met the plane at the airport we had no idea if my DH's mom would be coming in, or if we would be picking up his sister in her stead. Fortunately, she managed to actually get onto the plane and fly west for the wedding. We were very grateful that she conquered her fears just for us. I thought she would, though. My DH was her favorite child, even as his brother was his father's favorite.

We bucked convention - cultural, religious, and regional, bringing two lives together that spanned the midsection of the United States. We faced the odds of joining two people who really didn't have that much in common, and we made our own payoff. And as I get frustrated now and again with his stubbornness and mood swings, I look back on our history together and yes - I still love him. I suppose that's why we're still together and celebrating tomorrow.
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Congratulations. In many ways your marriage sounds a lot like ours - it has ups and downs here and there but it is impossible to imagine life without him.
A successful marriage takes a lot of work, thus those ups and downs. Thanks so much.

- Erulisse (one L)
Thanks! Sometimes I think I should be sainted just for putting up with him. Then I remember that I have my own times of being no bargain also. It's a crazy balancing act.

- Erulisse (one L)
Thank you, my dear. I hope you and Pippin have a wonderful weekend.

- Erulisse (one L)
Congrats to you and your DH. I hope your day is merry and filled with laughter, good times and warmth - and that the RenFaire experience is a satisfying one. A good marriage is never easy - it takes hard work to not let stuff drive you apart. You've beaten the odds many times over, you know!

Good going!
Thank you, my dear friend. I think both of us have beaten the odds a bit. Let's continue to try doing that, shall we? *hugs*

- Erulisse (one L)
Thank you, Min. I plan to enjoy and celebrate the entire day!

- Erulisse (one L)
Congratulations. Lovely tribute to your marriage and husband.
Thank you, my dear. We are a bit of an odd couple, but we're equally stubborn and unwilling to say that things didn't work out. I actually think that we're just not in the mood to teach another spouse how to behave appropriately, what things we like and don't like, and all of the other nuances that come into play with a long-term live-in relationship - LOL. But whatever works...

- Erulisse (one L)
You're either very in love or set in your ways. ... I vote for #1. :)

Congratulations to you both. Have a great time!
I tend to think it's some of number one with a dash of number 2 and some inertia thrown in for extra spice.

Thanks so much for your kind wishes :-)

- Erulisse (one L)
Thank you, my friend. Days spent at the Renaissance Fest are always good ones and this one will be extra special.

- Erulisse (one L)
Thank you so much. In the lives of elves, 33 years isn't much. But in the lives of people, especially in today's society of divorce, I'm fairly amazed that we're seeing number 33 together. Time to play in the Renaissance :-)

- Erulisse (one L)
We had a truly delightful day, and DH even wore his kilt for me, something that he rarely does. He looked SO good! Thanks for the positive thoughts!

- Erulisse (one L)